These words were said about me behind my back by a 21-year-old who only knew me for less than 2 hours. I am 23. Not much of a difference there. Though I could care less about what a stranger thinks of me, there are some things I wish she’d learn. If she said this to my face, this is what I would say to her:
You’re talking about age like it’s a defined thing. But age is an abstract and subjective concept. Being 23 to you might mean differently than what it means to me, especially since you have not been 23 yourself yet. Each person has a different idea of what 23 means, so it’s unfair and biased for you to talk about age like that.
If you’re talking about maturity level, again, I think it depends on the person. We each go through a unique set of experiences and handle them differently, whether it’s by growing and learning from them or not. What you’ve observed from me within the two hours that we interacted could not possibly cover the experiences and growth that I’ve been through. Since you disavowed my experiences, I would like to share with you a few things that I’ve learned since I was 21-years-old:
1. You should not judge someone or assume things about someone unless you’ve made the effort to get to know them. Sure, this is something that I still struggle with from time-to-time but at least I’ve recognized this fault and am working on it. What’s more is that you didn’t ask me my age or anything else for that matter. Did you assume my race, religion, and occupation as well? When I met this same group of friends, they all asked me these questions as you should have done.
2. Belittling others is NOT the best way to feel better about yourself. Better yourself by looking inwards.Within the past year, I’ve grown to be comfortable and confident in myself. I’ve discovered more of who I am and what I believe in, and I’m not afraid to express it. Most people, at ANY age, cannot say that about themselves. I will not apologize for whatever I may have said or done to make you think I didn’t act my age. I do not live to uphold other people’s expectations of a 23-year-old. And I am not going to act any differently because you have judged me.
I can only hope that you learn these things someday as well and that you will be a little more open-minded when you meet people. Ask them questions, get to know them the proper way…Each person you meet is a potential new friend, but if you judge them like that right off the bat, that potential is lost.
Much luck to you.